Wife Gets Husband DNA Test For Fun And The Results Say They Are Cousins
Jun 29th, 2020
DNA tests and ancestry sites are becoming more and more popular these days. In fact, anyone can now get a DNA test kit for themselves. Some people are doing this to learn more about their family tree.
Others have their DNAs tested to connect with their long-lost relatives. There are DNA tests that can show an individual the kind of illnesses and conditions that they can possibly have while others only do this for fun.
One woman learned more than she bargained for when she got her results back!
This couple decided to get a DNA testing kit for fun during the husband’s birthday. What they didn’t know is that the results would change everything in their lives. What was supposed to be a fun gift to her husband turned out to give them valuable information, telling them that she and her husband are first cousins!
A letter was sent to Slate’s Dear Prudence Podcast. This was from an anonymous wife explaining that she and her husband grew up in the same small town and now have a two-year-old son. According to Daily Mail, the husband explained that she got herself and her husband an ancestry kit for a birthday present. However, she regretted doing it and said she ‘wished to God I never came up with the idea.’
When they got the result, they discovered that they were closely related and it nearly broke her husband’s heart. She explained, “This news unsettles me and has left my husband’s world in tatters. His parents have been married for 30 years and my husband always held his mother close to sainthood.”
Since they learned about this, she and her husband have been sleeping in separate rooms and refused to talk about what happened. But she added that there was a point where she was still confused as to how exactly they were related. Until such time that all the evidence pointed to her mother-in-law having an affair with one of her uncles. Still, she didn’t know who could it be!
She wrote, “All my uncles are happily married — I thought. I find myself looking through photo albums of our childhood together and trying to figure out the truth.”
But what’s more painful for her is that she cannot share her secret, not even to her own sisters or her mom who are visiting them soon. She added, “This secret is poisoning my marriage, and I am terrified it will blow up the rest of our family. My father-in-law likes to rhapsodize how he married the first girl he ever kissed. This is going to kill him.”
The podcast host, Daniel Mallory Ortberg, and his guest host Connor Goldsmith, a literary agent, strongly felt that the woman needed to get her husband on the same page as her before they can move forward. Goldsmith told her, “You’re cousins. You’re not siblings. You didn’t grow up thinking of yourself related.”
Goldsmith continued to explain that there are plenty of places from different parts of the world where people marry their first cousins and it is not considered weird. Goldsmith added, “Unless your husband simply can’t live with this, I don’t see the upside in blowing up this marriage, potentially, 30 years later.”
Both agreed that a couple’s therapy is desperately needed for this couple. however, if the husband is willing to let go of their relationship, then the wife will have to figure out how to handle the situation from there.