Disabled Bridesmaid Wonders If She Made A Mistake For Skipping The Wedding

Getting married doesn’t give anyone the right to be mean to others, especially to those they have invited to the event. Still, we always hear stories of ‘bridezillas.’

One of the worst by far was shared by a 23-year-old woman on Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” forum. She asked: “Am I the a**hole for pulling out of my ‘best friend’s wedding?”

The thing is, she did not skip her best friend’s wedding for any petty reason. You see, the woman has a progressive disability, “like MS but slower” which affects her mobility and her ability to stand. Her 23-year-old best friend asked her to be a bridesmaid at her wedding. The problem is, that she “had to wear heels and walk down the aisle and stand for pictures unaided.”

She shares that they have been friends for 7 years. And when this friend got engaged, she was not the one who was asked to be her maid of honor, but instead, another woman with whom she worked with for less than a year.

She wrote: “I was hurt but I brushed it off. Then when it came to asking me to be a bridesmaid, she commented that I had to wear heels and walk down the aisle and stand for pictures unaided. I was hurt because she knew about my condition and my needs and completely overlooked them. We argued but made up.”

The wedding is scheduled for February 2021. And when she let the bride-to-be know that she will be using a wheelchair at the wedding, the bride got furious.

“She was instantly off to me. Stating how would I go in the car to the wedding, carry a bouquet, get into the building? etc… I gave solutions to those things,” she shared.

And when she tried to convince her that she wouldn’t ruin the wedding by being in a wheelchair, the bride gaslit and started to ridicule her. She demanded for this lady to walk and stand for photos.

“When I said no, I don’t feel comfortable or fully able to do so; I got back a message saying ‘So you’re rolling down the aisle on MY wedding day.’ Patronizing me and making me feel like crap. It’s a curveball she has to make work for her and her groom. And she loves me,” she adds

This woman said that she has no choice but to pull out of the wedding if the bride would insist on what she wanted to happen. Of course, the bride did not take it well and even accused HER of having a “bad attitude.”

“I finally got upset and said ‘if that’s how she feels, I’m not coming.’ Treating me like a thing to stand in there and smile for her day. Putting everything else aside. My health and well-being… I can’t believe after seven years of friendship, she’s put her one special day over a supposed ‘friend’ and her health. Like she’s ashamed of anyone to see me in a wheelchair. It will ruin her memories of the day. I will ruin it just by disabled. Ashamed of me, which obviously made me feel ashamed for wanting a wheelchair.”

She further adds: “Unlovable. Unworthy. Ugly. Someone that has no business being at a beautiful event because I’m disabled. She removed me off everything basically saying I’m selfish to do this on her wedding day… Am I the asshole for dropping out of my best friend of seven years wedding?”

People who read her Reddit story agreed that she did nothing wrong when she decided to skip the wedding. They also said that the ‘best friend’ is not a true friend by the way she was treating her. Other people also shared stories of loved ones using wheelchairs at their weddings, to express empathy and support for the bridesmaid.

She updated her post saying that she decided to ditch the wedding. She also took the opportunity to thank those who have shown their love and support for her.